The Essence of Friendship

Honestly, I'm not the appropriate person to talk (even to write) this topic because my own friendship never stand for a long time. But I learns much about friendship.

First: How people make a friendship?
The prior reason is the similarity between one person to another. Maybe they are similar in hobby, interest, major, religion, club, province, culture, etc.
I always have some best friends in my every organizations or places, such as : best friends in my english course, in my church organizations, at school and campus, in campus organizations, etc.
But the most closest friends are my friends at campus. We starts our friendship since the 1st semester. Hearing their stories about me at the 1st time they know me (used to be not as close as now) is shocking me inside. LOL. They said that I was really "songong", "belagu" (I don't know it in English. hahaha.) But since they know me well, they said that I am crazy too. hahaha. At least, it proves that the proverb "Don't judge a book by it's cover" is true.

Second: What people need in preserve their friendship?
Give me your opinion first!
Maybe some of you will answer my question by: trust, concern, emphaty, openness, sharing each other, having time together, etc.
But the most important thing (according to me) is to loose your ego each other. Even a small problem can be a big problem if you can't loose your ego each other.
I often face this problem in my friendship relation and I am the one who's difficult to loose my ego. But, I learn much from the experiences so now I'm trying to clear my ego up. I wish I'll do it well because I really love my friends now and forever, I won't loose them just because of my own fault.

Third: How to end up the friendship? Could it be end up?
I don't think that a friendship could be end up. For me, whatever the condition is, a friend still a friend, although they don't notice us anymore.
A friend can left us with no reasons. But the friendship can't be end up if both people do that. So if you don't wnat to loose your friends, don't let they go away, still notice them as your friends whether they aren't.

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written in my darkest hour of facing the friendship....

Karma dan Kita

Nyatakah karma itu?

Aku sungguh tak tahu

Mungkin orang menganggapnya karma

Namun kusebut itu dengan tuaian

Menanam yang kita lakukan

Menuai apa yang kita tanam

Menggores sekecil luca di hati seseorang

Lalu kelak merasakannya

Mungkin itu yang kita alami saat ini

Padaku, juga kepadamu

Hidup memang mengajarkan kita untuk tegar

Namun bukan dengan menyakiti yang lain

Mungkin dulu aku pernah menyakitimu

Dan aku pun pernah kau sakiti

Kita sama-sama merasakan rasanya disakiti

Dan memang untuk itulah hidup

Merasakan

Ya, rasakan hidup kita apa adanya

Jika rasa itu memberi kebahagiaan

Syukuri nikmatnya, rasakan dan berbagilah

Jika rasa itu memberimu kesedihan

Rasakan, maknai dan jalanilah

Sikapi keduanya dengan cara yang bijaksana

Bahagia kan membuatmu menjadi lebih berbagi

Kesedihan kan membuatmu lebih tegar

Maka, rasakanlah

Jadi bagiku, tak ada kata Karma

Meski mungkin bagi orang, bahkan mungkin bagimu

Saat ini kita terjebak dalam suatu karma

Bagiku, karma tak lebih dari sekedar sebuah pelajaran

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